“Caution or Fear – Needless or Necessary”
By =Lorna Anne
–Is there a difference between rational caution and irrational fear? How do you tell the difference between the two? Here’s a test to help you find out.
Resistance, tension, worry and fear – the four big symptoms of stress. The easiest definition for stress is confrontation with the Unknown. We stress because we are uncertain of outcomes, and that uncertainty brings up the above four reactions. Stress may be unnecessary if we have fears not grounded in realistic probabilities.
Resistance is a good example. It is when our feelings oppose or go against something because our initial perception is repugnance or revulsion. If those reactions are based upon what might happen, that is, outcomes that one doesn’t want, then it is best to see this resistance as a cautionary warning to take action to prevent what one resists from happening. If our resistance is based in the reality itself, such as an immediate reaction to a person or place, then it helps us to steer clear of things that are not beneficial to us. But, if we resist positive feelings because we’re afraid we’ll be let down because things won’t go as we hope or desire, then you have just moved into irrational fear. It is a resistance to allowing ourselves to get excited and make a positive connection to some wish or desire. Remember, it is not smart to be negative and shut out positive possibilities. Like attracts like…
Tension is the product of unconscious conflict in our focus on our choices. Making choices always involves unknown variables and outcomes. Do we assess the positives and negatives of any future choices we need to make? Are those projected outcomes we foresee as the result of our choices bringing up tangible difficulties that we must take caution about and overcome, or are our projections merely figments of an irrational fearful imagination?
Worry is anxiety over the unknown future. For instance: “Will I pass the test?” “Will I make it home safely?” We can frazzle ourselves into incapacitating anxiety which can actually manifest in physical symptoms. However, there can be proactive worry that doesn’t debilitate the system. Positive worry is a contribution of emotional and psychic support directed toward belief in the positive outcome. Why worry when you really don’t have grounds to, unless you are irrationally predicting disaster rather than helping the energies move in positive ways?
Fear is tricky to determine whether it is a sense of danger from an external reality, or a hypothetical thought just inside our heads. If we sense danger, then we must address the fear. If it is the latter type, then we must use our willpower to do the thing we fear and walk through it, exorcise it from our minds and move forward.
Below are 5 situations in which you must determine caution from fear. Choose either A or B depending on what you think the best course of acion should be:
1) It is not cold outdoors, however, you get caught in a downpour unexpectedly and you do not have protective rain gear. You are just recovering from a nasty cold. Do you:
A) Take extra Vitamine C or gargle to prevent a relapse
B) Trust that you’ll be okay, since you’ve just been sick
2) An item that you have waned to purchase for a long time is on sale. You wonder whether you should use the money you were saving for a future emergency. Do you or not?
3) You want to go hiking with friends. You have a recent injury that is healing, but is still a bit tender. Do you go anyway and hope for the best?
4) You have a definite attraction to someone. They do not know you like them. Do you tell them of your feelings?
5) You wake up with a bad cold. Do you go to work because you are afraid if you miss a day you may not be able to make monthly bills. Do you:
A) Go into work anyway, even though you feel wretched
B) Stay home and take care of yourself
1) A – Best to take precautionary measures because the reality is one in which circumstances could cause a relapse.
2) A – You give yourself what will make you happy and you trust the money will not be needed until you can save up again.
3) B – The mountain will be there. Nurturing and caring for your wellbeing is of primary importance.
4) A – Emotional expression of one’s needs and desires is healthy. If nothing is said, you may never know that they, too, feel the same way; and if not, then you can move on and realize there’s someone better out there for you.
5) B – If you protect others from illness, because this is right, you will be protected. The money will come from somewhere. The Universe will provide for those who show caring.